The Five Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers | Angela Karanja | Episode 172

Parents want our children to grow up to be happy. We want them to be able to handle whatever life throws at them and still thrive. That requires certain skills. Angela Karanja knows what skills this requires and how parents can teach them to their teenagers. She joins Mighty Parenting podcast host Sandy Fowler in a conversation about the 5 habits of highly effective teenagers. They name the habits, talk about what they mean for our teens, and how parents can instill these in their kids.

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A Favorite Quote from the Show: 

Show your teen they need to respect themselves and understand how magnificent and powerful they are as a person. Then they can turn that outward and understand how magnificent others are.

High Points From Our Conversation About Highly Effective Teenagers:

Highly effective teenagers are interdependent. They can manage themselves and their emotions. Additionally, they can relate to others and function in society.

Independence is good but we want to add value to the world. How do you give your talents to the world? How do you accept other people’s talents? How do you receive service?

Receiving is just as important as giving.

We are important and talented and we can give. And, others are just as important. They are talented and can give as well. We need to receive from them to enrich the world.

5 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers: Respectful, Responsible, Resilient, Robust, Radiant

Help your teen look at these things: How can you focus on something and bring it to light? How do you relate with other people? How do you respect other people? How do you respect yourself?

The first habit of highly effective teens is respect. Show your teen they need to respect themselves and understand how magnificent and powerful they are as a person. Then they can turn that outward and understand how magnificent others are.

Parents can help teens respect themselves by being careful about the words they use when speaking to their child. Pay attention to what you say about them, to them, and of them.

Share positive comments and praise comments with your child to help them see their virtues and their value.

We are quick to notice what our kids do wrong. We can turn it around and share the positive in it.

The 5th habit of highly effective teenagers is radiance. Radiance is having a positive outlook in life, knowing you can do things and things can change for the better.

We need to be radiant for ourselves first then share that light with others.

When you are radiant, you attract people who want to grow.

The sun doesn’t stop being the sun because there are clouds. You can take your position in the world confidently, show up, give, and rest in spite of challenges.

In order to teach our children the habits of highly effective teenagers, we need to learn these habits ourselves so we can model them for our teens.

The 3 Ms of influence: Model, Motivate, Mentor

Parents can model the behaviors, encourage their teenagers to be the person they are meant to be, and support them on the journey.

Resources:

Unmotivated Teens Shift Gears When They Find Purpose | Tim Klein | Episode 146

Excelling At Average | Kristen Howerton | Episode 139

Why Finding Your Authentic Self Is So Important For Teens | Cathy Lander-Goldberg | Episode 98

Our Guest Angela Karanja:

Inspirational Mentor and motivator of teenagers and parents of teenagers. My passion and purpose is to add value to the lives of parents of teenagers so they can raise highly effective teenagers.

To learn more or connect with our guest visit https://www.raisingremarkableteenagers.com/strong-bond-freewebinar-reg 

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